Survival advice

Since running away from my parents' home and having to arrange living out of my own means for the first time, I've learned a lot and want to share some advice for other young adults. This article is mostly aimed at online friends; I know a lot for whom doing this could be a reasonable decision in the near future.

Documents and essential assets

Almost everything in America is strictly gated behind having a photo ID and social security number. Without them you can't get a get a job, housing, or government welfare. Other government documents like a birth certificate aren't as important but still grab them if you can. If you ever end up needing a document you don't have, it's *hella fucking hard* to get it.

As much as I hate to say this, and *believe me I hate to because phones are an abomination and should die in a fire*, it's a borderline requirement to own a phone. Any time you apply for a job, housing, or government welfare, they expect a phone number, and a lot of web forms *require* you to input one.

A bank account and debit card are valuable assets compared to toting cash around everywhere. A lot of card processing machines will ask you for a PIN; if you don't have one, just try to enter an empty one and that usually works.

Also be aware of alternative card providers such as cashapp. You can get cashapp to send you a free cashapp card which works for most purposes like a bank-provided debit card connected to your cashapp account. They're actually better than a bank in some ways; you can transfer money through them much faster.


Obviously, you'll be renting. And *you'll probably have to tolerate housemates.*

A big bummer is that unless you have significant income and a good credit score, you can't rent an apartment traditionally. They have application processes covered in a sticky red material and usually require you to *prove your income is 3x the rent.* So searching on websites like zillow and hotpads is a waste of time. Your only options are alternative renting platforms like airbnb, despite them being stacked against you.

Airbnb is not a platform for guests

Some people say airbnb gives worse prices than traditional rent. I'm not sure if that's really true because with airbnb your host pays for the utilities (running water, temperature control, electricity, WiFi, trash takeout) while traditional apartments usually include at most 2 of them and the rest are further expenses. The reason I say airbnb a bummer is because of fewer options, many hosts only offer short term stays, you can't visit the place first, and the possibility of being cheated like I was.

Although airbnb is the most well-known alternative renting platform, there are several others:


Hotels are only an option for very short stays because they're about $100/night. That said, if you get caught unprepared and you can afford it, look for one because they're the only option where you can just walk in and get a room without any application process.

Rent (even if it doesn't include utilities) will take the vast majority of your budget. Food will probably be less than 1/4th as much as your rent. Assuming you accept housemates, expect to end up paying about $1000/month for your housing. Much more than that if you insist on not having housemates.

Also, get used to not getting a response. This is worse in the traditional rent system, but even on alternative platforms a lot of places will never respond to your initial inquiry. If you need to ask questions before reserving (and you probably do because most listings leave major ambiguities about what's being offered), reach out to *several* options.

Finally, *don't* wait. This probably seems like obvious advice but I got screwed over a couple times by thinking I could put off the commitment for a few days to make sure I didn't find a better option. I couldn't. You can't; **reserve as soon as you have a reasonable option**.

Tip about airbnb in particular: a lot of hosts give massive discounts if you book a month or longer, sometimes more than 50% (the $1000 per month estimate accounted for that). Another tip about airbnb: just because the airbnb form says your dates are available doesn't mean they are. Sometimes the form is wrong.


Your residence should be within walking distance of at least one grocery store. When buying food, spend a minute looking for altneratives to each item, because often there are very similar products with wildly different ratios of value to price. There are a lot of good articles on the web about which foods are the cheapest and how to prepare them. If you shop well, *you should be able to feed one person on $5 per day*.

When reading nutrition facts, *always check the serving size and the number of servings included*.

In my experience, delis usually have worse prices than large grocery stores. Don't pay $5 for 2 liters of juice; a supermarket sells it for half that. Some delis also don't support card payment, only cash.

And don't even think about restaurants, the prices are celestial compared to grocery stores.


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